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Love the Work

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Love the Work

Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.
— Confucius

As a kid I fondly remember Valentines Day.  It was a big event in our lives growing up.  The annual class Valentine Party where you shared gifts of sweet little cards with wishes of love and friendship on them.  

The cards along with the sweetness of candy always made the day special because it allowed everyone to freely share how much they cared.   

Raising my own kids I did the same thing and added in my own version of ideas from heart shaped pancakes or French toast to even a heart shaped meatloaf for dinner.  

Little unexpected gifts of love were always there as well as helping my kids create the cards for their classmates.  

Sharing love is simply a cool thing to do.  Which is why it’s nice that we make a day just for that reason.  Especially right now with the lack of love that seems to be in the air.  However, that seems to be shifting too!  

Be sure to join me in #28daysoflove over on Instagram.  

I was impressed by the number of Super Bowl commercials this year that focused on love – as did Lady Gaga’s brilliant performance.

Love is not just for our personal lives – it slips into our business lives when we love the work that we do and who we get to do it with. 

This week as my valentine gift to you I have a bunch of new "love the work" mobile wallpapers for you to download and enjoy throughout your busy moments when you look at your phone!

 
 

The thought is this … Life can get crazy… and in the all the “doing” we can forget the blessings our work provides us each day.  It starts with the things that our work gives to others and to ourselves.  The icing on the cake is when we actually enjoy the act of the work itself.  Let’s love the work!  I know I do and hope you do too!

Happy Valentines Day!  


To Your Success and Victories,

- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles
Email me: cheri@businessvictories.com

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A Special Gift

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A Special Gift

You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars you have a right to be here.
— Max Ehrmann

The End Leads to the Start

Sometimes when least expected the universe can hand us a nice beautiful gift that gets us to thinking differently. 

This past week – my husband returned home from a boy’s only, week long “epic” ski trip to Telluride. We then sat at one of our favorite restaurants sipping on margaritas and munching on tacos as he shared the stories and pictures of the amazing time he had with his east coast buddies.


Self-Confidence Has Many Forms

As one discussion lead to another I got to thinking about self-confidence in it’s many forms including the ability to head down double black diamonds with others of your same skill level (something I know nothing about). 

As my mind wondered looking towards this month and our focus on the tool within our psyche that serves us best – self confidence - the words from a poster that used to hang on my wall as a teenager popped into my brain.

I was originally thinking of it with the wrong words – no less than the moon and the stars you have a right to be here. I can remember looking at that poster (super cool at night with the black light on it) and feeling there had to be a reason I was put on this planet. Many nights I looked at it for hours through a blaze of tears trying to not feel so unraveled and alone. 
 

Searching for the Light

Finding positive connections back then was super critical for me as I tried to get through the craziness of my parents divorce and all that came along with that life crisis. All the while I was dealing with being a teenager as well. To say I was an extremely lost soul at the time is putting it mildly.  

Fast forward to our return home after our taco feast that night I scoured the internet trying to find this poster from the late 60’s early 70’s. Sadly, the original beloved poster was not to be found.  However the origins of the words were. I really love the discovery process Google can put us on at times even if we can’t find what we were originally looking for.    

It was then that I discovered the full writing of this poem called Desiderata that somehow has missed coming into my life other than that one line on the poster.  

So the rest of today’s Victory Letter is my gift to you in sharing this beautiful poem Desiderata – Latin for “desired things.” Enjoy it and I urge you to share it with someone who could use a little boost this week.  Remember in doing so - the more we can boost the self-confidence of others the better we can be fully in step with our own. 

It’s the little things like these words from a poem or a meal with a loved one that really matters most.


Desiderata

A Poem by Max Ehrmann

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.   

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.


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To Your Success and Victories,

- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles
Email me: cheri@businessvictories.com

P.S. Join the #28 days of love challenge on Instagram!

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The Courage to Compliment

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The Courage to Compliment

When was the last time you gave a sincere and heartfelt compliment?

What is your reaction when you get one?

Do you brush it off, making excuses why it may not be true?

Or do you soak it up like a warm ray of sunshine : )

This was the topic for conversation in this week’s Courage to be the Difference Podcast.  I had the great opportunity to interview New York Times Best Selling Author of the book, Picture Your Prosperity, Ellen Rogin. 

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Getting Around To It

When it comes to honoring time, we all have one single component in common. It is the fact that we all are given the same amount of time in each day. We all get 24 hours, but how we use those precious hours makes all the difference.

Finding yourself saying “I don’t have time” usually leads to suspicion to whether it is that you don’t really have the time to complete the task, or perhaps if there is rather a complete lack of desire.

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Game Changer

Nothing builds self-confidence quite like getting into the arena and fully playing the game.  Never has and probably never will. 

Jumping into the game – especially of a small business - takes a good strong dash of self-confidence to even begin it.  Then, as you orchestrate and play out the needed dance steps to be taken – something inside you just grows and grows. 

Probably one of my favorite past times is listening to stories of impassioned entrepreneurs and the steps they have taken along their way to make the idea and dream of creating a business a reality. 

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Love Lost and Found

If your heart has been broken along the way by a person or even an element in your business my wish for you in this season of love is to acknowledge the pain and move forward a stronger and more in-tune person.  Adjust your sails and continue on the journey stronger, wiser and ready to fully love again...

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Fortune Favors the Bold

There is a passage I read this week that has been hanging with me.   Especially with the results of Super Bowl last night, I find them to be exceptionally true. The words originally came from W.H. Murray from The Scottish Himalayan Expedition and it goes as follows:

Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too...

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Take It Easy

Each of us is a culmination of the people we have been acquainted with along our journey. They are the ones who either gave us our confidence, or those who took it away. 

Self-Confidence is the Master Mind principle of the month here in the Victory Circles and today I want to share with you my thoughts on how music and the people who bring it into our lives matter so much.

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Believe It

we are what we believe we are

When you stop to think about what you believe in... what comes to mind?  

 

The subject for this week's letter is based around belief - a powerful word and action that can either make us or break us in this life. With belief we can bring dreams to life. Without it, we sit and wonder why things are never as we want them to be.  

 

We all have hopefully experienced the positive effects of belief as we move through one life event to another. 

 

Perhaps belief was created while learning how to ride a bike and the thrill when you no longer needed those training wheels or your parent running alongside you.  

 

Perhaps belief was created the first time you fully fell in love. Perhaps it was created when you graduated from high school, or even when you left your childhood home to live on your own. 

 

Then there are the beliefs that we wanted to bring to life but just never came to fruition. Why was that? What was the element(s) that got in the way?

  

There is a saying in the world today that generally refers to peoples comments online and it is, "Haters gonna hate." People say nasty things behind the ivory towers of their keyboards that they would never say to your face.

 

I think of these people as the non-believers, the ones who try to squelch the dreams and hopes of others because of anger - perhaps because of not pursuing their own dreams. A really bad cycle of negative energy and negative belief usually ensues for all parties involved. 

 

Let go of the naysayers (and haters) as we talked about in last weeks Victory Letter. Letting go and allowing something cool to happen builds your trust that the universe has better plans. You just need to trust your positive belief and move forward to let the plans actually happen.

 

Acknowledge your struggle (whatever shape or form) that has led you with purpose in order to get you ready for the next stage of the journey. Then the belief can come to life. When we allow the struggle to stop us that is when we get into trouble.  

 

As I have shared in this letter before that over the course of the last couple of years my son, Travis, found a belief in balancing rocks of all shapes and sizes. In turn, his amazing photos and videos have become a powerful meditation tool that he believes opens us to the infinite potential we each possess. 

 

Recently, a group of vicious online haters found a video he created and decided to insult him in ways that he had never heard before.

 

I was proud that he had the wisdom to realize that their anger was only an issue within themselves and really had nothing to do with his art. 

 

To help get his belief in himself back on track he took matters into his own hands. Heading to the creek in a nearby canyon, he quite literally let it go by letting go of the stones in their moment of locking into balance. By taking a photo of this amazing moment of letting go he was able to reaffirm his belief once again. 
View his latest edition here

 

Watching our children grow from tiny little tiny babies into adults surely confirms the power of belief. As your children go from babies to adults you have to fine-tune the difference between showing them and guiding them in order to allow them to find their own special way. 

 

Not such an easy task sometimes, but without belief in their incredible spirit it would be impossible to give them the necessary support and encouragement they need. 

 

The key for me as a Mom and Business Coach is to support, give advice, and let the rest of it go because ultimately we each have the choice on how we want to live.  

  

Here's to your belief in all that you can achieve!   

To Your Successes and Victories,

- Cheri

 

Cheri Ruskus 
Author, Business Growth Coach, 
and Founder of the Victory Circles   
www.VictoryCircles.com

   

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A Love Letter

to avoid criticism

Listening to a Ted Talk on Saturday (Valentines Day) about writing love letters, I had this thought that I shared with the Ladies of the Victory Circles on our private FB page. Here is the question I asked them, What if you wrote a love letter to your business?

I did so, feeling compelled to throw the love towards that part of our lives that so many of us spend the majority of our waking hours developing and hopefully growing.

This morning, I would like share with you one of the responses that came from Nicole Irlbeck of Restoration Fitness. An entrepreneur who I have had the pleasure of knowing and working together with for many years now.  In fact, I dedicate this mornings Victory Letter to her.   

I think she depicted so well the relationship we can have with our business and the importance of acknowledging all aspects of it just like in any relationship. Here is what she wrote:

Dear Business,

Thank you for making me more humble, more tough, more determined, more patient, more connected, and more thick-skinned than I would have ever been without you. 

Through you I am given the opportunity to love my own dreams and help others to do the same. Thank you for allowing me the freedom to have enough flexibility to create my family life the way I always wanted it to be, while daily challenging to set better boundaries.

I will forever be grateful for the all the good and the not so great times!!

If you own your own business or feel a deep attachment to your work I think you can totally relate to what Nicole shared here. I know I did for sure!

I would ask the same question of you today.   What would you say to your business to share what it means to you in a love letter?  

To depict the elements of your relationship that means the most?  

To know (as with any good relationship) how it has changed you to your core and hopefully given you many strong doses of self-confidence along the way.

 Our businesses require that we breathe more life into them each and every day, so shouldn't we have a caring, loving relationship with all the elements of our business that makes it tick? Just as any relationship needs to be nurtured we need to get back in touch with the elements of our business that mean so much.

 So this Monday after Valentines Day I encourage you to push past those critics who may tell you that you can't, in honor of what you can, and have been doing in your business. Toss the naysayers to the side...be "something" as Aristotle eludes to in this week's quote.

 I particularly enjoy this week's picture that shares what can happen when we toss caution to the wind. I am happy to report that even after this rose had a photo shoot in the snow (Thanks Travis!) it bloomed beautifully.

Here's to power of love and here's to our businesses as they continue to bloom and grow!

 

To Your Successes and Victories,

- Cheri

 

Cheri Ruskus 
Author, Business Growth Coach, 

and Founder of the Victory Circles   
www.VictoryCircles.com   

   

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