you are that which you are seeking

What if you spent more time focused on success as opposed to the time you might be spending worried that you will not get there - for one reason or another. 

I loved something I read this past week during my morning meditation practice. It was words from Mark Nepo’s book, The Book of Awakening, which I have been reading first thing each morning for the past 6 plus months.  Doing so has allowed me to remain quiet each morning before letting my mind go in the million different directions it seems to take me each day. 

During this particular reading he asked, with eyes closed to envision one aspect of the current world around you that fells confining.  And then, rather than focusing on the people or circumstances involved (you know... the story), try to feel this confinement as the threshold or doorway of your next growth path.

It’s similar to the famous quote by Anais Nin who said, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

There are those aspects of our lives as we have been discussing here this month that keep us tight in the bud, not allowing our true inner voice or self to be heard.

Why?  As I have observed, it can stem from the fear and ultimate worry that we will make a mistake.  Freezing us in our tracks and keeping us tight in that bud unable to fully bloom.  When in fact, as we hold this thought pattern too long, it actually keeps us from our true path.  I have experienced this in my own life and have watched it unfold with my clients as well. 

Think of those people you may know who work for years in jobs they hate or in running a business that is not giving them any sense of joy.   The joy was perhaps lost after the initial newness of the business or job dissipated.  Sometimes it’s money driven, and sometimes its worry over making any kind of move because of previous mistakes made along the way. 

So many stories are out there of people whose greatest accomplishments came when they threw caution to the wind and risked the possibility of becoming their true self, of doing the work each day that filled their souls.  I know this to be true because I see it all the time.  And I am happy to report that it happened for me as well. 

And does this mean one morning you wake up and the sun is shining brighter and a choir of angels start to sing?  Not so much as it is taking one step in front of the other  to gradually as you begin to feel your attitude and mindset change.

First required action is to believe  (triple underline this one) that you are actually on the right path no matter how bumpy it gets along the way...and it will get bumpy.

Find people who support your vision of what your path should be ... not the path they think it should be.  Stay far away from the naysayers...

Cut down on your consumption of commercial TV and most definitely the “News”.  And for those of you who believe that the news is a necessary evil.  Try not watching it for one week and the amazing thing you will discover is that you can have a much more productive and happy life. 

The main reason removing yourself from the news is so beneficial is that you stop worrying about other peoples problems and situations.  As you step away from the TV News (designed to create ratings) ask that burning question... Is there really anything I can do about this anyway? 

Bobby McFarland probably sang it best... “Don’t Worry be Happy”.  Happiness, the ultimate goal we all uniquely share when we lay our heads down at night.

As your week begins write down your current worries and then underneath them what you can do right now today to make the change to pull you towards that happiness that comes from being worry free. 

Have a fantastic week ahead!

- Cheri  


Cheri Ruskus 
Author, Business Growth Coach, 

and Founder of the Victory Circles