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Calm Waters

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Calm Waters

Stay Calm and Carry On

Last Monday the word calm entered my head to use as the Daily Word that I create every morning on Instagram (@victorygirl).

So that you understand further, last summer I started using the Daily Word as a way of finding an important focus for the day. Then I started sharing it on my Instagram Story each day with thoughts around the word along with some of the nature photos that I love taking.

On Monday, I laughed when the word calm came out of me because after all it was Monday morning and I had more on my to do list over the next couple of days then I knew I could possibly get done.

In addition to on-boarding several new clients and serving current clients, I was beginning in earnest my planning for the last quarter of the year. Then there was my personal life that had so much going on that I didn’t know how I could even fit in my work life.

As I looked at that word calm I began to think about how I could enjoy the process of all of what was about to happen for me in that week ahead. My son and his girlfriend were arriving in two days on my birthday. My birthday that had somewhere along the way I had decided to make dinner for 11 people. Add to that we were a week out from my daughter and her fiancé arriving for an Engagement party we are hosting.

Oh yes, then there is my garden which I am totally obsessed with at this part of the summer because it is this live and growing thing that needs so much of my attention. Especially because I want it to be just right for these social events that are unfolding.

All good stuff right? Now the goal was to get it all done and enjoy the process with calm as my motto in order to enjoy achieving these rather audacious goals.

I began the process by further breaking out the word calm and having this word and the acronym it spells out to be my guiding light:

C – Clarity, have complete clarity on what must be done and what would just be nice to get done if time availed itself.

A – Attitude, to really watch my own self talk and be the encourager of calm when I found myself starting to wonk out over wanting things to be perfect.

L – Love, yes love seems to fit in everywhere doesn’t it. Letting go of what can't get done can allow love to flow much more easily.

M – Meditation, make calm and the process of taking deep breaths and meditation in the morning and mini meditations all day the medicine for not getting stressed.

Okay so you want to know how I did in making my birthday week one where calm was the game winner for me? Check it out on this week’s podcast! It’s short and sweet I promise.

Calm as you go!


To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus, Business Growth Coach
cheri@businessvictories.com • 303-652-1718 • @victorygirl

New clients start here: businessvictories.com/clarity


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Uphill Climb

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Uphill Climb

“Success is won by the person who understands how to use their own power of thought.” – Napoleon Hill

There I was a two week ago Saturday on my bike in the beautiful Yampa Valley just outside of the Steamboat Springs, Colorado city limits.  I had already biked about 10 fairly easy miles when ahead of me I saw it…the climb that I knew was coming…

 Has that ever happened to you where you know there is no going back - only forward and the climb (no matter what it is) has to be carefully constructed in your mind to get all the moving parts to happen as you plan.

 

In my case the moving parts were my body and my new bike - who I fondly have named Cherry. There were five components I thought of as I cycled those miles up that mountain to bring me to success, knowing that climbs in our lives come in all shapes and sizes.

 

1.     Preparation and a game plan.

2.     Removing all other distractions, knowing that mind over matter always is best.

3.     Belief in the vision of getting to the top being imperative.

4.     Feeling the pain and doing it anyway.

5.     Trust - including a team around you that you can count on.

 

Join me in this week’s podcast as I “climb” higher into this topic. I will also be talking about the subject that comes up in my work quite a bit around when do you call a business a business and not a hobby, or a life and money suck. Some of what I have to share may just surprise you!  Let’s climb together!

 

Here’s to an awesome month of August my favorite month of the year!

To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus, Business Growth Coach
cheri@businessvictories.com • 303-652-1718 • @victorygirl

New clients start here: businessvictories.com/clarity


Join the Victory Program

Gain confidence and clarity in your business

Need more help in growing your business ideas? It’s time to get the confidence and clarity you desire for your business. Hire me as your business coach and I’ll provide the strategy, support, and accountability to take your business to the next level over the course of this 6-month program. After joining this program you will get instant access to all of my online courses and will be able to schedule your first meeting as soon as next week!

This is for committed entrepreneurs only and space is extremely limited. Let’s partner up!

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A Matter of Taste

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A Matter of Taste

“You eat with your own mouth”

– Josephine Leanza

Each of us are the same in that we are human, yet different in so many ways. Different in our good qualities and then again different in what some might consider not so great qualities. Our uniqueness lies somewhere between the two.

The judgement that can come from looking at another’s life without really knowing their true-life story, or the road it took to get them where they are seems to be plaguing us these days. Resulting in keeping many from being the best that they can be. I think it’s important to talk about.

This month as we focus on the mastermind principle of our Unique Personality it leads me to ask this question...

How can you stay unique if you are trying to just conform to what you and others think you are “supposed” to be?

Last weekend I facilitated a table at a large women’s empowerment event. My task was to ask each woman at my table of 10 to articulate the story that she needed to share about a critical incident that had happened in her life. From there, the values that carried her through and what had happened within her head and her heart because of it.

Then finally what was the commitment she had already made in her life or wanted to make in her life because of the story so that she could empower her life and also touch the lives of others in a meaningful way.

Some pretty powerful stories were shared that moved me deeply and reminded me that there is a lot that goes on for each of us beneath the surface of our skin. I see this in my role as a Coach all the time. The sheer weight of self-doubt and fear of judgement from others can either empower us to make a difference in the lives of others or pull us down to not even fully live our own life.

While I was driving home from the event my mind wandered back a few months when I had the opportunity to spend a couple of days in San Diego with a coaching colleague turned dear friend, Dr. Gloria Miele. One night as we dined over some yummy sushi we talked about the different taste in food we each had, her loving spicy foods and me not so much.

Gloria shared with me the profound words of her Grandmother Josephine Leanza who said, “You eat with your own mouth.” Those words stuck deeply with me and I thought it was an important topic to share more on.

So today I have the honor to share with you a podcast that Dr. Gloria and I just recorded taking our roles as not only women who have lived on the road of life for quite a few years but as Coaches. Gloria also has the rich experience of having been a Clinical Psychologist. Together we explored this topic deeper which I am calling – A Matter of Taste. I hope that you enjoy.

Here’s to your own special taste.


To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus, Business Growth Coach
cheri@businessvictories.com • 303-652-1718 • @victorygirl

New clients start here: businessvictories.com/clarity


Join the Victory Program

Gain confidence and clarity in your business

Need more help in growing your business ideas? It’s time to get the confidence and clarity you desire for your business. Hire me as your business coach and I’ll provide the strategy, support, and accountability to take your business to the next level over the course of this 6-month program. After joining this program you will get instant access to all of my online courses and will be able to schedule your first meeting as soon as next week!

This is for committed entrepreneurs only and space is extremely limited. Let’s partner up!

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Come as you are

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Come as you are

Within each personality lies a unique individual spark that allows you to come as are…

As I write this week’s letter we are wrapping up the long 4th of July weekend. Hope you had as many smiles as I was fortunate enough to share with friends new and old.

This month we are taking a look into the Mastermind principle of Your Unique Personality and honoring the elements within each of us that lets our special spark shine – if we allow it to come to the surface.

Amid these thoughts of shining I have two special things to share with you today…

First, the marriage engagement of my daughter Bailey last week to her boyfriend Steve. As a parent, loving your children seems to come full circle when they find someone to love them, honor their special spark and create a life together that brings additional joy to their lives. I am so looking forward to the 2020 nuptials and watching their lives together unfold in their special and unique way.

Second, is the launch this Tuesday, July 9th of my son Travis’s first book, The Rock Balancers Guide: Discover the Mindful Art of Balance. This beautiful book contains both words of wisdom about balance and life as well as pictures of his beautiful art created through rock balancing over the last 5 years.

You can get your copy here.

It seemed appropriate to share with you this week once again my very first podcast (we are at episode #70 now) that I did with Travis 3 years ago. We called it, The Spark for the Future and I hope that you enjoy the thoughts shared around letting your spark shine as Travis shares his journey as an artist. See link above.

As you move into the week ahead ask the question - How do you allow yourself to come as you are by letting your special gifts and spark shine brightly?

To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus, Business Growth Coach
cheri@businessvictories.com • 303-652-1718 • @victorygirl

New clients start here: businessvictories.com/clarity


Join the Victory Program

Gain confidence and clarity in your business

Need more help with your goals? It’s time to get the confidence and clarity you desire for your business. Hire me as your business coach and in return I’ll provide the strategy, support, and accountability to take your business to the next level in the year ahead. After joining this program you will get instant access to all of my online courses and will be able to schedule your first meeting as soon as next week!

How the program works: we meet twice every month via phone/skype to discuss your pain points along with custom solutions to resolve them. I’ll provide simple homework for you and your team to execute in order to achieve the complex results you desire. This is for committed entrepreneurs only and space is extremely limited. Let’s partner up!

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Embrace the Inner Critic

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Embrace the Inner Critic

In the end, the only person who truly cares how you lived your life is you.
— Mrs Frugalwoods

What is your value and who should be the one to determine it?

The answer I believe is definitely you.  

Our challenge more times than not is that we can be our harshest critic, never finding enough value in ourselves.

The money we charge for our products and services and the overall value we give to the world by our actions, can come under fire from within our own mind of not being or doing enough. This is especially true for those of us with an entrepreneurial drive.  We need to create something that wasn’t there before and if our inner critic is fully in charge our business ideas just may never see the full light of day.

When my kids were little I made the conscious decision to not go into my business 2 days a week. I was around if my staff needed me and could put in a little work when the kids were napping but the rest of the time was for them.  It was an important value I wanted to give as a mom and something I highly valued giving my babies who are now entrepreneurs on their own.

Though those years were tough, and I beat myself up often because my business growth faltered, it meant everything to be a good mom and financial provider as well. Did I make millions – no – but I provided value on a variety of perspectives for my family, employees and clients.

Yet my inner critic was ready to lead the charge in making me feel I wasn’t enough and comparing my accomplishments to others.

What I have come to find over the years and still today from time to time is that I have to balance the words of my inner critic between truth and too much criticism (just like any other person in my life). Simple awareness of the sometimes overzealous voice of your inner critic in your head can protect you from the ultimate result of immobilization and procrastination.

When there is no “boss” to tell you where to be and what to do … it can all get very fuzzy.  You have to count on yourself to make the right choices without bossing yourself around. 

Bottomline: We have far more value than our net worth shows to those people whose lives we touch with our time and efforts. While there always will be the goal to earn more, do more and be more we can’t do it at the cost of our own true inner happiness.


Weekly Growth Challenge:

In this challenge I share some insights around dealing with your Inner Critic.  We each have one – that voice inside our head that questions our ultimate value and worth. While this part of our psyche is important in order to keep us in check and growing, if we allow the voice to get too loud it can keep us from ever feeling we are doing or being enough.  

  1. Listen to this week’s Podcast - Embrace The Inner Critic. Pay attention to how your Inner Critic talks to you.  
     
  2. It will be extra beneficial to journal about what this critic says to you and look at those words out of your head on paper versus always inside of your head.
     
  3. Think about the last time you were truly happy.  What were the circumstances that brought you that joy?  
     
  4. How can you have more of those circumstances in your life?
     
  5. Look back at what you wrote and why you are being critical of yourself.
     
  6. What are the negative words that you feel you could realistically change to be positive?  

Ep. 37 - Embrace the Inner Critic

Courage to Be the Difference Podcast


To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Morning Mindset

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Morning Mindset

Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.
— Tori Amos

Stop for just a moment and think about how your day started and progressed forward, from the second you realized a new day had dawned until right now.

Did it happen in blur of knee jerk reactions or was it orchestrated from one positive routine into the next?

About 4 years ago I took a program based in getting mentally and physically healthy. While I learned a lot about my physical body to be sure the key component I walked away with was the mindfulness piece and the complete desire to make meditation a part of my daily routine.

Here was my problem… sitting still long enough to truly meditate had always evaded my over-thinking mind. This time was different though because I decided to tailor my meditation time around something I have come to call my "morning momentum" time.

Through this practice I have been able to read, journal, enjoy the beauty of the morning and yes, meditate. Simply breathe and feel how good it feels to be alive.

Each morning this time of year I move from bed, to the coffee pot to my yoga mat in my garden. It has changed the caliber of my thinking and the beauty of each day. This is where I get most of my ideas for this weekly Victory Letter you are reading.

Late last year I decided to create a program based on the tools and methods I use in my own practice. Some of you reading this have participated in my Morning Momentum Program and I thank you for your time and investment. Your feedback took a great idea and made it into a self-sustaining learning platform.

Recently as I sat on my yoga mat one morning and thought about how to better serve my message to the world, a voice from within told me to make my Morning Momentum Program free to the public. It's an idea that just feels organic and easy for my audience to grow like the tree I was sitting below!

Whether you are looking to start from scratch or further enhance a certain aspect of your morning routine, my goal is to help you start each day a positive way. 

Today is the day I give you all the tools you need to have a great morning routine. It's free and only requires the amount of time you are willing to invest into your own morning. I always recommend giving yourself the time you deserve - it makes a huge difference in what you do next.

Have a great day ahead!


To Your Successand Victories

Cheri Ruskus

Author, Speaker and Business Strategist
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Celebrate Yourself

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Celebrate Yourself

Denying ourselves growth and change smothers our very spirit and squeezes out the passion of our dreams.
— Jani McCarty

Think of the moments in your life that have given you a cause to celebrate. Sure, there are the holidays we celebrate such as the recent 4th of July here in the USA, our birthdays, etc. There are also grand life milestone events such as weddings, graduations, etc.

Now think about the reasons we give ourselves to celebrate because of shifts and changes we have courageously made within ourselves. Perhaps one of the biggest reasons to have a self-celebration is when we face our fears head on in order to do something we have wanted to accomplish for a very long time.

Last week I was asked a question about my business which was - What would you do if you were 10x braver?

Wow! This simple question actually stopped me in my tracks to stop and evaluate where I am headed and why. While I am in the business of helping my clients find victory in their businesses, I had to ask myself, was I really finding enough reasons to celebrate? Am I reaching and growing in this phase of my own business?

It is really important to pause long enough periodically to ask ourselves that question.

Over the course of the past 30 days I have watched two colleagues have cause to celebrate because of the achievement of writing and publishing a book.

Having written two myself with another one on the drafting table for way over a year now I know how much work, time, and energy such an effort can take! What a celebration when all the work is done, the fears of how it will do out the world are faced and the book is finally launched.

One of these authors is sharing this week from the juicy contents of her new book, Celebrate! An Interactive Journey Through Life’s Invitations.

Join Jani McCarty and I in this brand new podcast episode as we discuss what it takes to be on your best courageous journey. I promise you some insights you have not thought about before.

Here’s to an amazing week ahead finding plenty of reasons to celebrate!


To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Unique Connections

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Unique Connections

What we offer each other is our truth and our truth is all of our stuff. How can we accept ourselves more?
— Ram Dass

Somewhere along our journey many of us either got side tracked or stopped all together when it comes to speaking our truth to others. Either by our parents or those in authority from teachers to clergy to bosses. Those who may have had the best of intentions when they responded to us negatively and contrary to what we wanted or were expecting to hear.

The perceived negativity we have encountered over the years can in fact play a pivotal role in our psyche. It can slow us down or even completely stop us from fully trusting the part of our intuition that allows us to execute activities based on communication skills. Activities that bring to life the hopes and dreams we want in our life.

This inability to communicate without fear can in fact hold us back from sharing what we actually want and need from others. Those people who we can help and in turn, can help us along our way.

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Allowing self-negativity like this to go on for too long it can zap us in many areas of our lives.  For example, one area I see the lack of sharing your unique truth come up more often than not is in the fundamental business skill of selling. A skillset that when not utilized can be the downfall of any business.  

Why do you suppose so many avoid selling? Is it lack of worth? Even to the point of letting their business fail? How about missing out on promotions or any kind of increased income? Time and time again I see it come up around the fear of having to hear that dreaded word – No. Or perhaps worse – no response at all.  We can fear not being valued – and let’s face it that can hit us to the core.

The key to moving past the fear is to take the time and the energy to find the right match of people who do want to hear what you have to share from your unique perspective. Not allowing the fear of a perceived rejection to keep you from connecting at all. Every "yes" is built on a mountain of "no's."

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I share this idea more in today’s podcast (linked below) and how we can think differently and use some built-in skill sets to find our source of power in this area. Also, I share in the podcast a recent journey my husband and I went on to the beautiful town of Telluride in southwest Colorado. The mode of transportation once we got there was the free Gondola system which we rode many, many times to get to the mountains hiking trails and down the mountain into town for meals and festivities.

What we found is that we were seated face to face with a number of people from near and far. Being in these little gondola cars high above the earth for up to 20 minutes at a time required us to either ignore the people we were riding with or to begin a conversation. What was remarkable was that the conversations we did have were for the most part rich and inspiring! We began to really enjoy finding out who the surprise connection for the next ride would be.

Each of us needs to communicate with other people our desires, thoughts, and ideas. This is how we share our truth and true self that makes life so much richer in so many ways. Move from the word "no" or even no response at all from another person as not rejection, rather just not a right fit for you and them at this time.


Weekly Challenge

Build at least 1 new Connection based on your mutual truths. 

Pay attention in the week ahead how you move around this concept. Do you find yourself shying away from truthfully asking for what you want? Focus on first accepting your truth - who you are and what you want. Then you can discover how to find more connections who are a good fit for your unique truth.

  • Be authentic to your own needs as you care about theirs as well.
  • Fully listen to what the other person(s) has to say.
  • Once you create a connection enjoy the process of sharing who you are: your ideas, products, or services.
  • Notice what negative “stuff” comes up for you during the process and where it might stem from. 
  • Keep in mind those people who already love what you have to share - what characteristics do you have in common?

Courage to Be the Difference Podcast

Ep. 34 - Unique Connections

 

To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Make a Splash

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Make a Splash

Once I dive in, I dive in all the way.
— Carly Fiorina

Imagine this… you want to enjoy the cool refreshing water of the lake, swimming pool or even the ocean on a hot summer day but the water is not just cool – it’s downright cold.

You put one foot in and shiver in surprise of how cold the water really is. You put your other foot in and debate whether you should now go in the water at all because it wasn’t what you had expected. Even though you know it will feel good and be totally refreshing once you get all the way in.

The question becomes do you just dive in and not go through the temperature change inch-by-inch which you know might leave you open to not going all the way in at all?

I think it’s safe to say in many life circumstances similar to this each and every single one of us at some point in our life has been afraid to totally commit to something that we really, really knew deep inside we wanted.

All the while knowing the reward would be worth it – yet the fear and the little bit of discomfort to get there held us back sometimes for years.

The foot in the water is really a metaphor for just “kind of” getting wet yet not allowing ourselves to enjoy fully what is possible as we stand on the shore line. 

There we are waiting for the perfect moment to have the courage to get past the initial change of temperature that could improve everything.

Have you ever found yourself“kind of” doing things in your business? You know, you are perhaps dabbling a bit here and there and not really committed 100%.

An example of dabbling is in how you might be using social media. Sure you get on to social media to break up the activities of the day, perhaps you even get a few adrenaline rushes by actually posting something and getting some likes.  

The truth could be that you are not committed to any one platform. You would love to build some strong relationships whether personally or professionally but it seems like too much work, and of course it would make you way too vulnerable. Then there is the whole aspect of how much time it would take…

For all the other elements in your business where you stop, hesitate and feel a bit stuck on the shoreline ask yourself these question as to what element is stopping you:  

  • Fear or doubt?
     
  • Not enough interest?
     
  • Lack of expertise?
     
  • No time?
     
  • Never enough money?
     

Look at that one thing you wish you would be more committed to not just getting done but getting done extremely well. Then find the answer to the questions above, find some support around the issue and quit waiting for the perfect conditions because they in fact may never come. 

What if this was the week that you quit dabbling and wasting your precious brainpower. What do you say… are you ready to take the dive and make a big splash? 

On the topic of social media I have more in this week’s podcast - Stop Dabbling in Social Media. I will give you 7 key insights to keep you engaged in your social media efforts.


Ep. 17 - Stop Dabbling in Social Media


To Your Success and Victories,

- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Champagne Problems

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Champagne Problems

Inside of every problem lies an opportunity.
— Robert Kiyosaki

Have you ever watched how a problem of any shape or size can quickly get blown out of proportion when you add some extra internal drama to it?

Recently I heard the term “champagne problems.” The idea of it got me to thinking when is a problem just an obstacle placed in our way to allow us to learn and grow versus a major life-altering situation that actually has life or death results.

For example, your roof has a leak. That’s a champagne problem because isn’t it awesome that you actually have a roof as opposed to being homeless and not having a roof at all. In other words do you have more to work with then you might have thought?

Let’s say you just got a call from your doctor about your recent test results. You were shared the news that you now have cancer. This is a major problem that unfortunately many are faced with every day. Your next steps will determine whether you live or die.

Somehow the rest of the “champagne problems” in your life will go away when you realize what is truly important. 

With all of this in mind, as you head into your week I encourage you to look at the obstacles in front of you in a new light. As you approach your current challenge ask yourself these questions:

  1. Is the outcome life or death?
     
  2. Is my physical well-being or someone I love being hurt because of this problem? 
     
  3. How have I been able to resolve similar challenges in the past?
     
  4. What is the best thing that could happen if I resolve this situation?

In this week’s Courage to be the Difference Podcast please enjoy my interview with Zhena Muzyka, author of Life by the Cup.

Zhena and I share a robust discussion of dealing with life as an entrepreneur and the problems that can be encountered along the way. Her story of founding Zhena’s Gypsy Tea as a single mom with a newborn baby that had a life threatening medical condition was no "champagne problem" to be sure. With no money or health insurance and only her tenacity to find a solution, it’s a story that is incredibly inspiring.  



Not only did she go on to build a multi-million dollar business, in the process she became a beacon for hope for the tea workers of Sri Lanka for whom she would become a warrior to protect.

Whether you listen on your way to the office or as you sip your morning tea, I encourage you to take the time to give this recording a listen. It will be worth every moment.

Please stop and look at the challenges that are currently in your world that you have perceived to be stopping you in your tracks. What are the potential solutions that could in fact actually enrich your life and get you to the other side?

Enjoy the 7’s of this day on 7-17-17!  Interestingly enough the number 7 in numerology represents the knowing that nothing is exactly as it seems and that the truth is sometimes hidden behind illusions. Seek and you shall find ;)

To Your Success and Victories,

- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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