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Embrace the Inner Critic

In the end, the only person who truly cares how you lived your life is you.
— Mrs Frugalwoods

What is your value and who should be the one to determine it?

The answer I believe is definitely you.  

Our challenge more times than not is that we can be our harshest critic, never finding enough value in ourselves.

The money we charge for our products and services and the overall value we give to the world by our actions, can come under fire from within our own mind of not being or doing enough. This is especially true for those of us with an entrepreneurial drive.  We need to create something that wasn’t there before and if our inner critic is fully in charge our business ideas just may never see the full light of day.

When my kids were little I made the conscious decision to not go into my business 2 days a week. I was around if my staff needed me and could put in a little work when the kids were napping but the rest of the time was for them.  It was an important value I wanted to give as a mom and something I highly valued giving my babies who are now entrepreneurs on their own.

Though those years were tough, and I beat myself up often because my business growth faltered, it meant everything to be a good mom and financial provider as well. Did I make millions – no – but I provided value on a variety of perspectives for my family, employees and clients.

Yet my inner critic was ready to lead the charge in making me feel I wasn’t enough and comparing my accomplishments to others.

What I have come to find over the years and still today from time to time is that I have to balance the words of my inner critic between truth and too much criticism (just like any other person in my life). Simple awareness of the sometimes overzealous voice of your inner critic in your head can protect you from the ultimate result of immobilization and procrastination.

When there is no “boss” to tell you where to be and what to do … it can all get very fuzzy.  You have to count on yourself to make the right choices without bossing yourself around. 

Bottomline: We have far more value than our net worth shows to those people whose lives we touch with our time and efforts. While there always will be the goal to earn more, do more and be more we can’t do it at the cost of our own true inner happiness.


Weekly Growth Challenge:

In this challenge I share some insights around dealing with your Inner Critic.  We each have one – that voice inside our head that questions our ultimate value and worth. While this part of our psyche is important in order to keep us in check and growing, if we allow the voice to get too loud it can keep us from ever feeling we are doing or being enough.  

  1. Listen to this week’s Podcast - Embrace The Inner Critic. Pay attention to how your Inner Critic talks to you.  
     
  2. It will be extra beneficial to journal about what this critic says to you and look at those words out of your head on paper versus always inside of your head.
     
  3. Think about the last time you were truly happy.  What were the circumstances that brought you that joy?  
     
  4. How can you have more of those circumstances in your life?
     
  5. Look back at what you wrote and why you are being critical of yourself.
     
  6. What are the negative words that you feel you could realistically change to be positive?  

Ep. 37 - Embrace the Inner Critic

Courage to Be the Difference Podcast


To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Morning Mindset

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Morning Mindset

Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.
— Tori Amos

Stop for just a moment and think about how your day started and progressed forward, from the second you realized a new day had dawned until right now.

Did it happen in blur of knee jerk reactions or was it orchestrated from one positive routine into the next?

About 4 years ago I took a program based in getting mentally and physically healthy. While I learned a lot about my physical body to be sure the key component I walked away with was the mindfulness piece and the complete desire to make meditation a part of my daily routine.

Here was my problem… sitting still long enough to truly meditate had always evaded my over-thinking mind. This time was different though because I decided to tailor my meditation time around something I have come to call my "morning momentum" time.

Through this practice I have been able to read, journal, enjoy the beauty of the morning and yes, meditate. Simply breathe and feel how good it feels to be alive.

Each morning this time of year I move from bed, to the coffee pot to my yoga mat in my garden. It has changed the caliber of my thinking and the beauty of each day. This is where I get most of my ideas for this weekly Victory Letter you are reading.

Late last year I decided to create a program based on the tools and methods I use in my own practice. Some of you reading this have participated in my Morning Momentum Program and I thank you for your time and investment. Your feedback took a great idea and made it into a self-sustaining learning platform.

Recently as I sat on my yoga mat one morning and thought about how to better serve my message to the world, a voice from within told me to make my Morning Momentum Program free to the public. It's an idea that just feels organic and easy for my audience to grow like the tree I was sitting below!

Whether you are looking to start from scratch or further enhance a certain aspect of your morning routine, my goal is to help you start each day a positive way. 

Today is the day I give you all the tools you need to have a great morning routine. It's free and only requires the amount of time you are willing to invest into your own morning. I always recommend giving yourself the time you deserve - it makes a huge difference in what you do next.

Have a great day ahead!


To Your Successand Victories

Cheri Ruskus

Author, Speaker and Business Strategist
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Celebrate Yourself

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Celebrate Yourself

Denying ourselves growth and change smothers our very spirit and squeezes out the passion of our dreams.
— Jani McCarty

Think of the moments in your life that have given you a cause to celebrate. Sure, there are the holidays we celebrate such as the recent 4th of July here in the USA, our birthdays, etc. There are also grand life milestone events such as weddings, graduations, etc.

Now think about the reasons we give ourselves to celebrate because of shifts and changes we have courageously made within ourselves. Perhaps one of the biggest reasons to have a self-celebration is when we face our fears head on in order to do something we have wanted to accomplish for a very long time.

Last week I was asked a question about my business which was - What would you do if you were 10x braver?

Wow! This simple question actually stopped me in my tracks to stop and evaluate where I am headed and why. While I am in the business of helping my clients find victory in their businesses, I had to ask myself, was I really finding enough reasons to celebrate? Am I reaching and growing in this phase of my own business?

It is really important to pause long enough periodically to ask ourselves that question.

Over the course of the past 30 days I have watched two colleagues have cause to celebrate because of the achievement of writing and publishing a book.

Having written two myself with another one on the drafting table for way over a year now I know how much work, time, and energy such an effort can take! What a celebration when all the work is done, the fears of how it will do out the world are faced and the book is finally launched.

One of these authors is sharing this week from the juicy contents of her new book, Celebrate! An Interactive Journey Through Life’s Invitations.

Join Jani McCarty and I in this brand new podcast episode as we discuss what it takes to be on your best courageous journey. I promise you some insights you have not thought about before.

Here’s to an amazing week ahead finding plenty of reasons to celebrate!


To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Unique Connections

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Unique Connections

What we offer each other is our truth and our truth is all of our stuff. How can we accept ourselves more?
— Ram Dass

Somewhere along our journey many of us either got side tracked or stopped all together when it comes to speaking our truth to others. Either by our parents or those in authority from teachers to clergy to bosses. Those who may have had the best of intentions when they responded to us negatively and contrary to what we wanted or were expecting to hear.

The perceived negativity we have encountered over the years can in fact play a pivotal role in our psyche. It can slow us down or even completely stop us from fully trusting the part of our intuition that allows us to execute activities based on communication skills. Activities that bring to life the hopes and dreams we want in our life.

This inability to communicate without fear can in fact hold us back from sharing what we actually want and need from others. Those people who we can help and in turn, can help us along our way.

Butterfly Victorygirl Telluride

Allowing self-negativity like this to go on for too long it can zap us in many areas of our lives.  For example, one area I see the lack of sharing your unique truth come up more often than not is in the fundamental business skill of selling. A skillset that when not utilized can be the downfall of any business.  

Why do you suppose so many avoid selling? Is it lack of worth? Even to the point of letting their business fail? How about missing out on promotions or any kind of increased income? Time and time again I see it come up around the fear of having to hear that dreaded word – No. Or perhaps worse – no response at all.  We can fear not being valued – and let’s face it that can hit us to the core.

The key to moving past the fear is to take the time and the energy to find the right match of people who do want to hear what you have to share from your unique perspective. Not allowing the fear of a perceived rejection to keep you from connecting at all. Every "yes" is built on a mountain of "no's."

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I share this idea more in today’s podcast (linked below) and how we can think differently and use some built-in skill sets to find our source of power in this area. Also, I share in the podcast a recent journey my husband and I went on to the beautiful town of Telluride in southwest Colorado. The mode of transportation once we got there was the free Gondola system which we rode many, many times to get to the mountains hiking trails and down the mountain into town for meals and festivities.

What we found is that we were seated face to face with a number of people from near and far. Being in these little gondola cars high above the earth for up to 20 minutes at a time required us to either ignore the people we were riding with or to begin a conversation. What was remarkable was that the conversations we did have were for the most part rich and inspiring! We began to really enjoy finding out who the surprise connection for the next ride would be.

Each of us needs to communicate with other people our desires, thoughts, and ideas. This is how we share our truth and true self that makes life so much richer in so many ways. Move from the word "no" or even no response at all from another person as not rejection, rather just not a right fit for you and them at this time.


Weekly Challenge

Build at least 1 new Connection based on your mutual truths. 

Pay attention in the week ahead how you move around this concept. Do you find yourself shying away from truthfully asking for what you want? Focus on first accepting your truth - who you are and what you want. Then you can discover how to find more connections who are a good fit for your unique truth.

  • Be authentic to your own needs as you care about theirs as well.
  • Fully listen to what the other person(s) has to say.
  • Once you create a connection enjoy the process of sharing who you are: your ideas, products, or services.
  • Notice what negative “stuff” comes up for you during the process and where it might stem from. 
  • Keep in mind those people who already love what you have to share - what characteristics do you have in common?

Courage to Be the Difference Podcast

Ep. 34 - Unique Connections

 

To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Make a Splash

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Make a Splash

Once I dive in, I dive in all the way.
— Carly Fiorina

Imagine this… you want to enjoy the cool refreshing water of the lake, swimming pool or even the ocean on a hot summer day but the water is not just cool – it’s downright cold.

You put one foot in and shiver in surprise of how cold the water really is. You put your other foot in and debate whether you should now go in the water at all because it wasn’t what you had expected. Even though you know it will feel good and be totally refreshing once you get all the way in.

The question becomes do you just dive in and not go through the temperature change inch-by-inch which you know might leave you open to not going all the way in at all?

I think it’s safe to say in many life circumstances similar to this each and every single one of us at some point in our life has been afraid to totally commit to something that we really, really knew deep inside we wanted.

All the while knowing the reward would be worth it – yet the fear and the little bit of discomfort to get there held us back sometimes for years.

The foot in the water is really a metaphor for just “kind of” getting wet yet not allowing ourselves to enjoy fully what is possible as we stand on the shore line. 

There we are waiting for the perfect moment to have the courage to get past the initial change of temperature that could improve everything.

Have you ever found yourself“kind of” doing things in your business? You know, you are perhaps dabbling a bit here and there and not really committed 100%.

An example of dabbling is in how you might be using social media. Sure you get on to social media to break up the activities of the day, perhaps you even get a few adrenaline rushes by actually posting something and getting some likes.  

The truth could be that you are not committed to any one platform. You would love to build some strong relationships whether personally or professionally but it seems like too much work, and of course it would make you way too vulnerable. Then there is the whole aspect of how much time it would take…

For all the other elements in your business where you stop, hesitate and feel a bit stuck on the shoreline ask yourself these question as to what element is stopping you:  

  • Fear or doubt?
     
  • Not enough interest?
     
  • Lack of expertise?
     
  • No time?
     
  • Never enough money?
     

Look at that one thing you wish you would be more committed to not just getting done but getting done extremely well. Then find the answer to the questions above, find some support around the issue and quit waiting for the perfect conditions because they in fact may never come. 

What if this was the week that you quit dabbling and wasting your precious brainpower. What do you say… are you ready to take the dive and make a big splash? 

On the topic of social media I have more in this week’s podcast - Stop Dabbling in Social Media. I will give you 7 key insights to keep you engaged in your social media efforts.


Ep. 17 - Stop Dabbling in Social Media


To Your Success and Victories,

- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Champagne Problems

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Champagne Problems

Inside of every problem lies an opportunity.
— Robert Kiyosaki

Have you ever watched how a problem of any shape or size can quickly get blown out of proportion when you add some extra internal drama to it?

Recently I heard the term “champagne problems.” The idea of it got me to thinking when is a problem just an obstacle placed in our way to allow us to learn and grow versus a major life-altering situation that actually has life or death results.

For example, your roof has a leak. That’s a champagne problem because isn’t it awesome that you actually have a roof as opposed to being homeless and not having a roof at all. In other words do you have more to work with then you might have thought?

Let’s say you just got a call from your doctor about your recent test results. You were shared the news that you now have cancer. This is a major problem that unfortunately many are faced with every day. Your next steps will determine whether you live or die.

Somehow the rest of the “champagne problems” in your life will go away when you realize what is truly important. 

With all of this in mind, as you head into your week I encourage you to look at the obstacles in front of you in a new light. As you approach your current challenge ask yourself these questions:

  1. Is the outcome life or death?
     
  2. Is my physical well-being or someone I love being hurt because of this problem? 
     
  3. How have I been able to resolve similar challenges in the past?
     
  4. What is the best thing that could happen if I resolve this situation?

In this week’s Courage to be the Difference Podcast please enjoy my interview with Zhena Muzyka, author of Life by the Cup.

Zhena and I share a robust discussion of dealing with life as an entrepreneur and the problems that can be encountered along the way. Her story of founding Zhena’s Gypsy Tea as a single mom with a newborn baby that had a life threatening medical condition was no "champagne problem" to be sure. With no money or health insurance and only her tenacity to find a solution, it’s a story that is incredibly inspiring.  



Not only did she go on to build a multi-million dollar business, in the process she became a beacon for hope for the tea workers of Sri Lanka for whom she would become a warrior to protect.

Whether you listen on your way to the office or as you sip your morning tea, I encourage you to take the time to give this recording a listen. It will be worth every moment.

Please stop and look at the challenges that are currently in your world that you have perceived to be stopping you in your tracks. What are the potential solutions that could in fact actually enrich your life and get you to the other side?

Enjoy the 7’s of this day on 7-17-17!  Interestingly enough the number 7 in numerology represents the knowing that nothing is exactly as it seems and that the truth is sometimes hidden behind illusions. Seek and you shall find ;)

To Your Success and Victories,

- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus
Business Strategist and Founder of the Victory Circles

Email: cheri@businessvictories.com 
Phone: 303-652-1718
Web: victorycircles.com

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Punching Fear in the Face

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Punching Fear in the Face

Until we can receive with an open heart we are never really giving with an open heart.
— Brene Brown

This week I am delighted to share with you a brand new podcast with colleague Susan Sandler, founder of Partners for Leadership and Lead Deep.  Our conversation has been titled, The Courage to Find Your Own Voice.  Susan has an amazing story and is passionate about “punching fear in the face.”

The opportunities we each have to learn and continue to grow every day never ceases to amaze me. Pushing past the obstacles and missteps along the way are of course all part of the process. That really comes back to the whole idea of being open to receiving and avoiding perfectionism.  It’s hard to be perfect when you are punching fear in the face!  In turn, the process allows you to fully open up, find your voice and be who you are destined to become. 

Also know that this letter may not always be perfect as it really flows straight out of my heart each week.  My goal is to have you hear the message my voice is feeling the need to share… and not always necessarily be perfect.  That is what allows this letter to get out the door each and every week.  Perfectionism can in fact stop messages from getting out at all.  I see it all the time in my work as a coach. 

Taking risks can be challenging for those of us who are doing it on a daily basis. Some days are harder than others… or is that some days are easier than others?

Be true to you and I believe your voice will shine through.  Enjoy the podcast and have yourself a great week ahead!

To Your Successes and Victories,
- Cheri

Cheri Ruskus 
Author, Business Growth Coach, 
and Founder of the Victory Circles   
www.VictoryCircles.com

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Be the Greatest

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Be the Greatest

In June we said the eternal goodbye a gentle giant of a man that I think we can all remember him by saying the words and fully meaning it, “I am the greatest.”  That man of course was Muhammad Ali.  I was genuinely touched at how many people were deeply moved by his passing.

His funeral played out with a pretty diverse list among the 20,000 people that attended. There was much laughter and of course tears shared by those who eulogized him. 

I felt a tribute here in the Victory Letter to this bigger than life personality was important especially this month as we honor the Master Mind principle of our Unique Personality here in the Victory Circles.  He most definitely had that element mastered. 

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No Problem Mon

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No Problem Mon

This past week I began the process of getting acclimated to the real world once again, as I plugged myself back in from my Jamaican adventure.  The vacation had removed so much stress from my body that I wanted to remain in the calm, “no problem mon” mentality that everyone on the island seemed to possess. 

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Unplugged Independence

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Unplugged Independence

When was the last time you unplugged?  I mean completely just let go of feeling the need to check in and do something, anything, and of course - everything.  

The problem in our high tech world today is that it allows so many people to have access to each other online instantly and in the palm of our hands. With all this instant action we can sometimes forget about the offline parts of our lives that require patience and can be so much more rewarding.

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